Looking For Your Soulmate? What Makes a Soulmate?

Looking For Your Soulmate?

For many people, concepts such as soulmate, soul twin, or ‘your other half are more important than the person to have a real relationship. These people overestimate these concepts or idealize them so much that after a while, they are far from realizing that they are unhappy because they cannot reach that ideal. If we gather all these concepts under the concept of ‘soulmate’, I can say that there is no soulmate as idealized by these people, of if there is, I have never come across one. These people think that they have a soulmate somewhere in their head and I haven’t met him/her yet. Even worse, they believe that one day that soulmate will definitely meet him/her, they will fall in love with each other instantly, they will marry and have children, and they will live happily ever after without any negativity.

First of all, I think the so-called “looking for your soulmate” is not a person out there waiting for you to find him/her. Soulmate is about experience! In other words, the so-called soulmate is not someone who looks like you, thinks like you, is very compatible with you, exactly as you imagined, and when he meets you, he is not someone who will fit you exactly like a puzzle piece. On the contrary, despite all their differences and as a result of all conflicts over time, they were able to adapt to each other; A soulmate is the person with whom you can turn all the positive and negative aspects of the relationship into mutual respect and love. Therefore, contrary to popular belief, a soulmate is not just one or just a few people, but any of the millions of options living on earth. Over time, with whom you can adapt to the maximum, with whom you manage to be in flow, with whom you love “unconditionally” and with whom you establish a bond of endless respect and love, that person will be your soulmate.

Believing that there is only one soulmate and living with the belief that you will find him one day causes us to be unhappy, on the one hand, it is a belief that greatly reduces our relationship possibilities. Because having a very clear expectation in a certain pattern can cause us to miss out on the possibilities of a relationship where we can adapt very easily and be happy. If we want to believe in the concept of soulmate, to believe that we will choose one among many soulmates with whom we can be more or less attuned, not just one; It is possible to increase our relationship possibilities and be much more in flow and happy.

Finally, I emphasize once again: Although there is a “soulmate”, it is not just one person! He is any one of the millions of people that you can create with your effort and time, with the possibility of living in a relationship with unconditional love, respect and endless trust.

Yunus Sezener

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